Getting YouTube Flash Video To Fallback In JS

I have a YouTube channel with many videos. The links to these Flash videos are talking to a page within my web site. On the web site, the video pops up in a tiny window on entry of the page, and it closes when you click the close button or it will fade away after it has played its way through.

So the scenario is this: The site looks great, but it doesn't on an iPad. Because I am linking to a Flash YouTube URL, it doesn't load on the non-Flash iPad device. I have done a lot of online reading for a week and discussed on many forums. However, everywhere I turn, I read articles about how what I'm trying to do is not possible--that no YouTube URL will ever play on the iPad. Is this true? If so, why can they play on the iPad YouTube app? What is the difference between the app and my web page?

I found many articles and videos referencing this fallback: [URL]

However, my problem with this fallback is that my videos are on YouTube. I am using a URL to talk to it, more specifically an ID. The client has done this purposely to save bandwidth on their server. I have the start of the Javascript looking like this:

function loadPlayer() {
var params = { allowScriptAccess: "always" };
var atts = { id: "myytplayer" };

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Within the loadPlayer function, can I add fallbacks in here (after line 4)? If so, how do I go about writing one? I suppose I'm just lost on how to get the HTML5 video option to work with my project. I have heard YouTube is using HTML5 video in beta, and it may be running in a few months. Would this auto-correct my problem do you think?

Is there a way to find the native file in the YouTube channel and bypass the .swf reference?